Japanese Business Emails: A Guide to “Cushion Phrases” with Examples for Requests, Refusals, and Reminders

“I sent an email, but I haven’t heard back…” “I tried to be polite, but I’m worried I sounded a bit cold…” Have you ever felt this way while working with Japanese companies?

In Japanese business etiquette, there is a concept called “Cushion Words” (Kushon Kotoba). At first, they might seem like a roundabout way of speaking. However, in Japan, these phrases play a vital role in building trust and maintaining harmony.

In this article, we’ll explore why “Cushion Words” make your work go smoother and provide practical email templates you can use right away.

Let’s master the art of writing business emails that truly resonate with your heart.

＼Japanese business etiquette／
「日本で働くためのビジネス基礎講座きそこうざ」

Why are “Cushion Phrases” necessary?

Many Japanese learners might wonder, “Why use such long, polite expressions before getting to the main point?”

In languages like English, getting straight to the point is often seen as an “efficient and valuable business skill.”

However, in Japanese business communication, “Cushion Phrases” are essential tools for building and maintaining smooth interpersonal relationships.

Risks of Being Direct

Japan is a “High-context” culture, where people often rely on shared understanding and context rather than just words.

Because of this, stating your requests too bluntly can come across as “harsh,” “cold,” or even “aggressive” to the recipient.

For example, imagine you need someone to revise a document.

If you send: “Please revise the document.” While grammatically correct, the recipient might feel like their work is being rejected or that they are being barked at with an order.

Adding a “Cushion Phrase” helps to soften that “impact.”

Respectful Distance

Cushion phrases function to maintain a respectful “psychological distance” between you and the recipient. In business, you often have to make requests or give answers that might not meet the other person’s expectations.

By “anticipating” the other person’s situation (their workload, schedule, or feelings) and putting it into words, you send a clear message: “I understand and respect your circumstances.”

• “I am sorry to trouble you while you are busy, but…” (お忙いそがしいところ恐縮きょうしゅくですが) = I recognize that you are busy.
• “I would truly appreciate your support…” (お力添ちからぞえをいただきたいのですが) = I am relying on your expertise and abilities.

By including these respectful words before the main point, you create a positive atmosphere that makes it easier for the recipient to accept your request or refusal.

Bridging the Cultural Gap

In global business, it goes without saying that “speed” and “efficiency” are prioritized.

However, when dealing with Japanese companies, focusing solely on efficiency can ironically slow down the process of building a “trusting relationship.”

In Japan, “work efficiency” includes the idea of avoiding unnecessary trouble or emotional friction by not making the other person feel uncomfortable.

By mastering cushion phrases, you will earn trust as a professional who understands Japanese business culture and shows genuine consideration for others.

Cushion phrases may seem like a “detour,” but they are actually the shortest path to reaching your destination—obtaining agreement and cooperation.

Basic Cushion Phrases

Cushion phrases are generally divided into three main categories: Requests, Refusals, and Confirmations. Here are the most commonly used phrases for each situation.

Requests

In Japanese business etiquette, when asking for a favor, it is standard practice to acknowledge that you are “taking up the other person’s time.”

【Examples】

• お忙いそがしいところ恐縮きょうしゅくですが、ご対応たいおういただきますでしょうか(I apologize for troubling you while you are busy, but could you please look into this?)
• お手数てすうをおかけしますが、ご修正しゅうせいいただきますようお願ねがいいたします。 (I am sorry for the extra trouble, but I kindly ask for your assistance in making the revisions.)

Declines

In Japan, when you cannot meet someone’s expectations, you should avoid saying “I can’t” or “No” too directly.Instead, start with a cushion phrase to convey the nuance of: “I would like to help, but unfortunately…”

Follow-ups

When asking questions or confirming details, be careful with your wording. Without a cushion phrase, you might sound like you are “doubting” the other person or “interrogating” them.

Always place the cushion phrase at the beginning of the sentence.

• 【NO】会議かいぎの資料しりょうを送おくってください、お忙いそがしいところ恐縮きょうしゅくですが。
• 【OK】お忙いそがしいところ恐縮きょうしゅくですが、会議かいぎの資料しりょうをお送おくりいただけますでしょうか。

Sample Emails Using Cushion Phrases

Now that you’ve learned the basics, let’s look at how to structure an actual email.

Requests

Example: When you need to ask someone to hurry due to your own circumstances.

件名けんめい： 資料修正しりょうしゅうせいのお願い

〇〇様さま

いつもお世話せわになっております。○○です。

この度たびは、一点いってんお願ねがいがありご連絡れんらくいたしました。

ご多忙たぼうの中恐おそれ入いりますが、先日せんじつお送おくりいただいた資料しりょうですが、一部修正いちぶしゅうせいをお願ねがいしたく存ぞんじます。

急きゅうなお願ねがいで大変恐縮たいへんきょうしゅくですが、本日ほんじつ17時じまでにご対応たいおういただくことは可能かのうでしょうか。

お手数てすうをおかけいたしますが、何卒なにとぞよろしくお願ねがい申もうし上げます。

Declines

Example: How to politely decline a request from a business partner or colleague.

件名けんめい： ご提案ていあんいただいたプロジェクトの件けんにつきまして

〇〇様さま

いつもお世話せわになっております。○○です。

先日せんじつは貴重きちょうなご提案ていあんをいただき、誠まことにありがとうございました。

社内しゃないで慎重しんちょうに検討けんとういたしました結果けっか、誠まことに残念ながら、今回こんかいは見送みおくらせていただくこととなりました。

せっかくのお申もうし出でにお応こたえできず、大変たいへん心苦こころぐるしいのですが、何卒なにとぞご理解りかいいただけますようお願ねがいいたします。

また機会きかいがありましたら、その際さいはどうぞよろしくお願ねがいいたします。

Follow-ups

Example: request a response when you haven’t heard back from someone.

Instead of accusing them of not replying, the focus is on “checking the status” of the matter.

件名けんめい： 【再送さいそう】お見積書みつもりしょの確認かくにんにつきまして

〇〇様さま

お世話せわになっております。○○です。

お忙いそがしいところ恐縮きょうしゅくですが、先日せんじつお送おくりした見積書みつもりしょの件、その後ごの進捗しんちょくはいかがでしょうか。

行いき違ちがいで既すでにご対応たいおういただいておりましたら、申もうし訳わけございません。

大変恐たいへんおそれ入いりますが、お手てすきの際さいにご返信へんしんをいただけますと幸さいわいです。

Key Points to Remember

Since you understand the importance of “cushion phrases” (softeners), be careful not to fall into these common traps.

Overuse

Even when trying to be polite, using too many softeners in a single email is not recommended.

It’s best to save them for “important requests” or as a “closing remark.”

Also, be cautious about using them when they aren’t actually necessary, as it can make your message unclear.

Over-apologizing

Constantly saying 「申もうし訳わけございませんが」 or 「すみませんが」 can give the impression that you are always at fault, which might negatively affect your professional image.

Use 「申もうし訳わけございませんが」only when you are truly apologizing or causing significant inconvenience.

Otherwise, using phrases like 「恐おそれ入いりますが」 is more appropriate.

• 恐おそれ入いりますが、ご確認かくにんのほどよろしくお願ねがいします。: “Thank you for your kind assistance with this matter.”
• 恐おそれ入いりますが、ご対応たいおういただきますようお願ねがい申もうし上あげます。: “I would appreciate your support in resolving this.”

Mismatched Context

Using a softener that doesn’t fit the situation can confuse the recipient

.For example, saying 「私わたしの理解不足りかいぶそくで恐縮きょうしゅくですが、ご確認かくにんのほどよろしくお願ねがいします。」（I apologize for my lack of understanding, but please check this）when you clearly understand the situation makes no sense.

While it’s fine to use phrases found online or through AI, always make sure they actually match the context of your email.

Conclusion

In this article, we’ve explored the role and usage of “cushion phrases” in business emails.

At first, you might feel that there are too many phrases to memorize, or that they make your messages sound a bit roundabout.

However, these phrases are more than just “etiquette rules.” They are a powerful way to show respect and convey the message: “I value our partnership and want to work smoothly with you.

“Cushion phrases play a vital role in softening the impact of your requests and building long-term trust.

Simply adding that “A small touch of thoughtfulness” can significantly change how people respond to you.

Try incorporating these phrases into your emails starting tomorrow to build smoother, more trusting relationships in the Japanese business world.

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